will my baby still remember me?
hello( please read and SERIOUS answers only) my husband and i sent my daughter to stay with my inlaws in france back in march , my lil girl was 2 months old at the time. now she is do back home in about 2 weeks. she will 1 week short of 6 months old. we have had webcam communication with our daughter about 2 times a week ( due to time differences) she responds to my voice but she is usually looking at her surroundings. but i see how she is with my mother nlaw, and i am afraid that she will come back home and she will begin to cry for my mother in law, because she has spent almost 4 months with her and have been away from me for that long. i will be so devestated if that was to happen!!! i did not want to send her in the 1st place, i was in nursing school at the time and my husband was working, it was his decision to send her.. i think if i had no bond with my daughter i could not look my husband in the face anymore. please serious answers only. i am so nervous.
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1 :
she is your doughter she will remember you
2 :
There's a chance your daughter wont remember you, but then there's a chance she might. Babies normally remember a person by the shape of their head and their smell. If you hold her close and let her get a good smell of you, and talk to her. She'll certainly remember your voice from when she was in the womb and on the phone.
3 :
As tough as this is going to sound--no, she probably won't remember you. She will be familiar with you because of your video chats, but since you are not caring for her most of the time, she will likely think of your mother-in-law as her mother. There is good news! Lots of times, babies aren't even adopted until they're 9 months old, or older. It might take some time, but they bond with their adoptive parents and grow up without remembering anything else. You will get that bond back with your baby in no time, it is not lost forever. Don't worry!
4 :
she will be fine. my friend left to kuwait when her baby was 4 months and was gone for a year and a half and her baby did great when she came home!
5 :
She probably will know who you are, but still might cry for your mother-in-law. Babies get attached very easily to whoever is with them the most. That seems like a very difficult situation to be in. Best of luck to you, but remember, it may have been your husband who thought this idea up but you must have had some say so in it. Don't push all the blame on him.
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Of course she is going to cry, she will be in unfamiliar surroundings with unfamiliar people and it could take her some time to adapt. Newborns/infants don't have retention powers so she basically doesn't know who you are, she doesn't know that you are her mother. She doesn't know who you were prior to her going to your in laws and no she isn't going to remember you. Just like the next time she sees your in laws she really won't remember them. You ALLOWED your husband to make that decision for you to send your daughter away. That makes you as at much fault as he is. I was still in school when I had my daughter but I didn't send her away. I took a couple of months off of school then went back and retook the classes I missed and put her in day care when her and I were both ready, so she was with me every single day after my classes. I would never allow my husband to send my child away. Sorry but it isn't going to be happy times for awhile, that is a fact, your child is going to cry and scream and will probably have problems sleeping there is nothing you can do to make it go away. I'm just wondering how you can look yourself in the mirror.
7 :
Omg! I am sorry that u were not with your baby for so long! I could not have ever been away from my baby that long. She has never been away from me for more than two hours. That must have been so hard to miss all those little things in the development of your baby! I don't think anyone would have been ae to tear my baby from me for any reason!I don't think your baby will remember you but it doesn't matter because you will introduce yourself again and she will love you anyway.
8 :
well i think your baby will definitely remember you, but at first she will not remember you as her mother. since your MIL has been her primary caregiver since she was 2 months old, im sure she will think that your MIL is her mother. there will be tears when she leaves so prepare yourself for that. but it will be short lived. and dont feel bad. at my moms daycare, babies would cry when they had to go home because they were used to my mom caring for them. it will not take long to fix itself, though. in no time at all it will be like you never separated. dont beat yourself up when she cries for your MIL. its nothing personal, it is just how babies are. *EDIT- i also want to say that i would NEVER send my daughter away. i dont care what was going on. so i dont think you should solely blame your husband. you could have stopped that, even if it meant leaving him.
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