Sunday, March 28, 2010

I want to CRY b/c of my situation...PLEZ give me some advice

I want to CRY b/c of my situation...PLEZ give me some advice?
So im 21 and I met my very first bf 4 months ago and i have never had anyone before him. He gave me my first kiss. He has A LOT of good qualities (does not push anything sexual on me that I don't want aka...very respectful!, has a good job, good looking but I HATE his glasses lol, wants to get married, seems like he would be a good husband/father, seems to really care for me and pays for everything anywhere we go) BUT here's the deal... I still don't feel as if im in "love with him" and it's been 4 months already...I feel like I should be by this time...there are some things about him that bother me but they are small...(he seems shy in front of my parents and even with other people he dosen't really seem like the kind of guy who would "be the center of attention at a party"...you know? he's not like the guys who go all crazy and laugh with other people and just be silly.... he tends to be sociable but serious at times especially when we go to places and people try to sell him stuff...he just kind of says "no" and keeps walking and not even give a smile or anything the big problem is that I HAVE TO be married in two years....It sounds terrible but im getting my bachelors degree in nursing done right now and I don't have a valid government ID b/c my visa expired and they won't renew it...so, unless I get married in two years I won't be able to take my licensure exam and be a nurse...I don't know what im going to do..... So basically I would have to go back to my country (France) if I don't get married in two years and I don't remember anything b/c i came when I was only 5 years old....so in a way...I feel pressured to feel like I "HAVE TO" love him b/c I need to get married as if I don't have a choice b/c technically I don't...I can't go back to my country b/c ive lived here 17 years and I can't dump him either b/c Im afraid I won't find anyone else/better plus I don't have a car so it's kind of hard to go out and meet people without a car All in all, I really do like him right now it's just that my parents are a little skeptical about him b/c he seems so shy around them but we go dancing together and he drives out here 80 miles just to pick b/c I don't have a car...I just don't know if this will bloom into anything bigger in the future... what should I do?? and thank you to everyone who can help me out! :)
Singles & Dating - 3 Answers
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Give it time. It's not going to happen in 4 months. If you don't think you love him after 2 years then you have a problem.
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You are setting yourself up for disaster if you honestly think like this. "I have to be married in two years"? "I feel like I have to love him"? Are you kidding me??? This is no way to go about finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES does anyone HAVE to be married in ANY amount of time. Our divorce rates are so incredibly high because of people like you thinking like this. COME ON! Get REAL woman!! This is your first boyfriend, you're only 21, and you haven't even started your career yet!! Unless you want to end up in court filing divorce papers in 5 years with some random man you "had to marry," QUIT IT
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ok first off, you CAN NOT rush love...it just doesnt work that way, just give it time and take things easy...you have 2 years, and also dont get married just because you feel pressured due to your visa, thats a really sh!tty thing to do. And also you say that you dont like how he's not '"the center of attention" and whatnot, well just be glad thats he's not an obnoxious @sshole And he drives 80 miles just to see you?! gah, thats amazing right there lol, i think you just need to slow things down and learn to appreciate him for who he is just a little bit more and just live life one day at a time. Im only a 17 year old kid...but i know these kinda things haha, good luck =P


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Sunday, March 14, 2010

How do you go about college overseas? when graduated in the US

How do you go about college overseas? when graduated in the US?
Well I'm in my junior year of high school, in Virginia. I'm a dual citizen, I have citizenship here and in France. I was thinking of after i graduate high school to go to college in France. Its a whole lot cheaper there, I can live with family, and I know the language. So my question is how does that work? Like how do the credit transfers work, can I even go to college in another country even though I have an American diploma? I'm planning on majoring in nursing, but I would like to do something with international health, like learning about international health affairs and so on. So yeah any advice more than appreciated. Thank you so much. [:
Studying Abroad - 1 Answers
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Before you do anything, you need to research whether or not a French educated nurse can practice nursing in the US - if your plan is to return. And if so (and I suspect they can), what hoops must you jump to allow you to do so. You can apply to unis in Europe, including France, but know that a normal US HS diploma is not enough. You need either 3 AP exams, or 3 SAT II subject tests. You should check the international applicants information listed on the web pages for the French unis that interest you, to learn which specific tests you need. There is no "credit transfer".


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Sunday, March 7, 2010

How Can I Convince My Girlfriend To Move In With Me

How Can I Convince My Girlfriend To Move In With Me.?
My girlfriend and I have been togther for a year and a half. she is 20 and i am 21. We are both about to start college very soon, but the only problem is that she lives in France, and I live all the way in Toronto, Canada. I was thinking about joining her in France to start college, but learning the language, and finding a job down there would be another long process that would delay me from starting school. I want her to join me here in toronto because she already speaks english, and she wouldnt even need a job on the side, so everything would be easy. Plus, they always have a bunch of nursing programs over here, which is what she wants to do. We both love each other very much, and after being in a long distance relationship, with occasional visiting, we finally want to live our dream of being in the same city, and even the same apartment together. But The only problem is convincing her to come here , and making her lose the fear that we will one day have a major fight, which will result in her leaving the school and going back to her country. Any Help ??
Singles & Dating - 4 Answers
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just have a romantic dinner and say to her that you are ready to take the next step in your relationship and that you would love her to move in with you! GOOD LUCK!
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Have you considered marriage? Willingness to formalize your commitment should help overcome her fear of an impending split.
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First decide how much you want to be with this person- do you a) like them and enjoy their company or b) do you want to spend your life with them? There is a big difference! If the answeres A then just enjoy it while it lasts , if its B then what are you waiting for? Get pismluer French and start packing....LOL! Honestly, I left my work, close family and pals to get married and live on another continent - it was NOT easy. Even if you both love each other it will be very very hard for either to uproot like that. Trust me- that sort of uprooting hurts! I hate to try coming across as "older'n'wiser" but 20 is (these days) considered young to settle, (it didnt used to be!) are you both ready and willing to commit to being together for life? Unless you BOTH are ready to settle and commit then either one of you packing up and starting a new life overseas is going to be a too much of a strain on your relatshionshp. Even IF you both do have that sort of commitment to each other the uprooting and (and actualy LIVING with each other...lol, it can be quite a strain in itself!!!!) will be hard. Honestly, I am happy that I made the leap, and wouldnt change it for the world, but it was very hard, painful and took a lot of work and willingness to change and accomadate each other. Before you ask her to move or move yourself you should reflect on that. If you've both really found your life's partner then I wish you luck either moving or convincing her to move to you! God Bless!
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Wow... you guys are 20 & 21 but extremely in love? This is a hard one ...... I had a relationship with a girl who moved 2 hours away & it eventually deteriorated and we broke up with in 4 months. I'm not wishing this on you..... but human beings needs physical closeness also to keep the bond going. I'm not saying sex - which is nice if you are getting that too...... but actual physical contact - watching TV, going to movies, cooking together.... etc...... "Historically, relationship researchers and therapists have been of the opinion that separated relationships need fairly frequent face-to-face visits. Several articles, based on either professional opinion or interviewing techniques, have suggested that separated couples need to see one another about once a month to maintain intimacy." more good info at this site = http://www.longdistancerelationships.com/Advice/article.asp?articleID=4 so the plan to move closer is the main way to save your relationship & somehow you need to get this across to her. & if her major problem is fear that you guys will break up with a major fight ...... you need to convince her that will never happen in a million years & stick to it. Hopefully you have a good track record with being a honorable person with other girlfriends & even having low drama with her will help. You also need to do some research on nursing schools that would love to have her & that have a really good reputation. You will have to do research on places to live, how much everything will cost & hopefully to boot you could afford to foot most of the bills ..... sorry to tell you this now = but women like financial security .... it doesn't mean that they are all gold diggers .... but they need to know you can foot a lot of the bills if they decide to have a family with you in the future. & you will need to explain to her ..... if GOD FORBID -----good line to remember..... if you guys broke up this would be our mature kindhearted adult back up plan. ie - she can still finish out her schooling while living with you, you will help her with an emergency back up fund or nest egg that will make her feel secure. etc........ So bottom line is you are going to have to do some research & some serious planning & thinking on your part..... because honestly if you are going to drag some girl across the world to be with you.... to leave her family, her friends, her country, everything she knows & makes her feel secure ...... then you better be sure she is the one for you and you will be willing to work very hard at maintaining your relationship with her ......... or at miniumum help her either get back home or finish her nursing degree in your country... which ever she prefers. You will have to sell it & really mean it ........ to "convince" your girl to move it with you. Good luck, Steven


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Monday, March 1, 2010

Why do people continue to use cell phones/wifi when they emit deadly amounts of radiation

Why do people continue to use cell phones/wifi when they emit deadly amounts of radiation?
http://www.youtube.com/noradblog http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwmpdFJijn8 http://www.youtube.com/user/emfcellphonesafety http://www.youtube.com/user/celltowerprotection http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/europe/article6366590.ece http://www.treehugger.com/files/2008/12/schools-in-japan-ban-cell-phones.php http://www.engadget.com/2007/09/13/karnataka-india-banning-cellphones-for-kids-under-16/ Governments and organizations that ban or warn against wireless technology American Bird Conservancy and Forest Conservation Council: Brought a lawsuit against the FCC because millions of migratory birds are being disoriented by microwave radiation and crashing into cell towers Amateur Radio Relay League Bio-Effects Committee: “The FCC’s standard does not protect against non-thermal effects.” Australian Democrats: The “explosion in wireless communications technology” is causing widespread illness. Austrian Medical Association: Warns against Wi-Fi, cordless phones, and cell phone use by children. Ballinderry Primary School, Ireland: Removed Wi-Fi to protect the children. Bavaria, Germany: Recommends no Wi-Fi in schools. Environmental Protection Agency (EPA): The FCC’s exposure standards are “seriously flawed.” European Environmental Agency: Recommends wireless technology be avoided by vulnerable groups such as children. Food and Drug Administration (FDA): The FCC’s exposure standard “does not address the issue of long-term, chronic exposure to RF fields.” Frankfurt, Germany: Bans Wi-Fi in public schools. Interdisciplinary Society for Environmental Medicine (3000 physicians in Germany): Recommends banning cell phone use by children and banning cell phones and cordless phones in preschools, schools, hospitals, nursing homes, events halls, public buildings and vehicles. International Association of Fire Fighters: Opposes communication antennas on fire stations. International Commission on Electromagnetic Safety (comprised of scientists from 16 nations): Recommends limiting cell phone use by children, teenagers, pregnant women and the elderly. Irish Doctors Environmental Association: Warns that current safety guidelines are “not appropriate.” Karnataka State, India: Bans cell phones in all schools and pre-university colleges. Knowsley, Borough of, England: Bans cell phones in schools. Lakehead University, Ontario: Bans Wi-Fi on campus Madhya Pradesh, India: Bans cell phones in schools by both students and teachers. National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH): The FCC’s standard is inadequate because it “is based on only one dominant mechanism—adverse health effects caused by body heating.” National Library of France: Removed Wi-Fi and installed only cable connections. Paris, France: Removed Wi-Fi from four libraries. Prebandal Preparatory School, Chichester, England: Removed Wi-Fi from its campus Progressive Librarians Guild: Recommends no wireless technology in libraries. Russian National Committee for Non-Ionizing Radiation Protection: Warns that cell phones are unsafe even for short conversations. Children under 16, pregnant women, epileptics, and people with memory loss, sleep disorders and neurological diseases should never use cell phones. Sainte-Geneviève University, Paris: Removed Wi-Fi from its library. Salzburg, Austria: Bans Wi-Fi in public schools. Sebastopol, California: Broke its contract to install citywide Wi-Fi. Stowe School, Buckinghamshire, England: Removed Wi-Fi from campus. Therold, Ontario: Broke its contract to install citywide Wi-Fi. UK Department of Education: Children under 16 should not use cell phones except in an emergency. University of Pittsburgh Cancer Institute: Children should never use a cell phone except in an emergency. Voice (UK Teachers Union): Calls for a ban on Wi-Fi in schools. Ysgol Pantycelyn School, Carmarthenshirem, Wales: Removed Wi-Fi from campus. http://emfjournal.com/cell-phone-ban/
Cell Phones & Plans - 3 Answers
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To answer your initial question, because they've become such an integral part of our lives. We can no longer imagine how to live without cell-phones, and are getting to that same point with wi-fi. And while we might recognise a risk, it's such a long-term thing that it doesn't really bother most people. The immediate benefits seem to far outweigh the long-term risks.
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A bit like asking why do people smoke when they know it can cause cancer.It is something people have been used to and are not willing to do without.Now go and practise your football you will need to be good to beat lavey next year.
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Lets talk facts, not fear. There are NO clinical studies that shows any relationship between exposure to RF fields as a bio-hazard. There is alot of speculation, and bad press, but not one clinical study. Here are some facts: Amateur radio operators, folks who are routinely exposed to RF fields 1000 times stronger then a cell phone for periods as long as fifty years do not show any higher incidence of cancer or any other disease as a group compared to the general population. In fact it is lower. People who work in the broadcast industry at transmitter sites where the exposure amounts are on the order of 10,000 times have the same health histories as amateur radio operators. The same is true for people who work on cell towers as a group. The same cannot be said for x-ray technicians, people who work at nuke plants, and other high nuclear type radiation workers. Hysterical people and the media are confusing RF energy and nuclear radiation. The truth is RF energy is not the same as nuclear radiation. Gamma & X-rays break down molecules by stripping away electrons. RF energy only causes heating of tissue in the worst case situation. The amount of heating at its worst with any modern consumer electronics is about 1000 times less than the heating you experience standing in a sunny place. It about 500 times less then the what you get from standing next to a radiator. Tissue damage from direct contact with a radiator (antenna) will burn much in the same fashion as a soldering iron if the antenna has thousands of watts radiating from it. The average cell phone put out milliwatts - minuscule in comparison. Actually if you hold a piece of Granite in your hand it is most likely more hazardous than a cell phone, since most Granites emit gamma radiation. Do you have granite in your home, maybe your kitchen counter-top? If you do then you have a radioactive counter-top! Is it enough to hurt you ... hmmm The ARRL comment above is taken out of context and in the complete text talks about the exaggerated risk of exposure to RF. Same for the quote from NIOSH. The EPA quote is a complete reversal, since the EPA reports actually says that the hysteria and "media coverage is seriously flawed in its basis", not the FCC standards. The FCC understands the lack of risks, the media hype and subsequent public hysteria about an issue that in reality has not been shown to exist in any study conducted. And there have been many studies conducted, all inconclusive. I see no studies in the above text, just hysterical responses by certain groups, and government reports taken out of context.


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