My Baby does not cry when I leave!!?
My 8 month old boy is always smiling and happy. He is very much advanced in his reactions and understanding of his environment and loves to "talk" and interact with me and his mother. We started him at creche this week and all is great for the moment. Today, my wife took him and stayed with him for a while. He ate from his bottle really well (usually on breast), and all was good. The nanny then asked my Wife to leave for 30minutes so my son could gradually get used to her not being there. 20 minutes later she was called back to find him asleep in the arms of one of the nurses. Great you might think, but the nurse and boss of the creshe told us that when my wife left, he continued on as normal crawling around, happy, smiling and 'talking' with everyone. Apparently, this is not normal and they are slightly worried about this. They did not go into detail, or they did, but because we live in France the communication is slightly difficult for her. Can anyone tell me why they would be worried about this behavior??? It has annoyed me as my wife has never left our son before and was already worried, now she is bits. Thanks
Toddler & Preschooler - 8 Answers
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1 :
I think it just means that your baby is happy go lucky and attaches well to other people. Not necessarily a bad thing, though yes it is a bit unusual. Nothing to worry about though.
2 :
Your baby is happy anywhere he is. Just see this as a positive thing. Dont worry, the french think everything is unusual
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thats completely normal, obviously your child is confident and outgoing, my child would "go with anyone" for ages, occasionally they go through phases were they get clingy, you will probably find he will be fine then a couple of months later he can go through a clingy spell, then change again, however he may not change at all - all completely normal
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its not a bad thing at all, it shows you son trusts them and feels ocmfortable in the nurses presence, i think you should be pleased that he isnt so attached and clingy he cant be left with anyone else. they shouldnt be worrying you and making it seem like a bad thing, hes happy and healthy thats the main thing.
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We just started my almost 1 year old son with a private sitter who watches 4 other children, and I expected him to cry because he is pretty attached to me and his Daddy, but to my surprise when I say "bye bye" in the morning when I drop him off, he smiles and crawls in the other direction. It just means that your baby is happy and well adjusted. A lot of kids have separation anxiety, but just because your child doesn't does not mean that there is something wrong, and the nurses were wrong to insinuate that there is something wrong. Just be happy that your child is comfortable. NOT crying means that your child is sure in the fact that you will come back for him. THAT IS A GOOD THING!!! Don't worry so much.
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He is well adjusted and happy. Its great. a parent might want a baby to cry to seem like it missed the parent, but that's all on the parent. That's just ego. If a child is calm and happy he will likely not even notice you are gone for a very long time.
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May i congratulate you on a happy well adjusted kid. It says a lot for you.
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This is normal behavior for children this age. When your child is about 12-15 months old, you may find that the child experiences severe "separation anxiety" when she is left with the care giver. For children under the age of three, it is not healthy for your child to be left with other people for more than three or four hours a day. It can lead to a disorder where the child is poorly attached to those he should be closest to. When your child is over the age of three, you can leave them in a child care program for as long as six hours a day without many problems.
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